“ When our kids have bad dreams in the middle of the night I have always let them come sleep with us.
“ As long as your child feels loved by you and you find your own way to be involved in his or her life in a meaningful way, it won’t matter whether you choose a soft or strong parenting style or a combination of both approaches.
“ My husband due to his job is not home very often, so I’ve had to play Mom & Dad a lot of the time. I have to be strong, yet soft and every day is a balancing act.
“ My husband calls me “the soft one” because I like to give second chances and encourage the kids to behave, rather than disciplining them harshly when they do something wrong.
“ For the past few weeks, since my better half took a job working nights, I have really had to be very soft with my “Daddy’s girls”; giving them an extra snuggle, or maybe an extra bedtime story at night.
“ When your child continually does something that you told them not to, then that is when you should be harder.
“ I can’t act strong when my son appears to be sleepy or tired, because it has proven to be useless to try disciplining an exhausted child, who has lost control over his own behavior.
“ When my boys misbehave I get eye to eye with them and talk about the issue. The we find a solution together and see what we can do to make sure it does not happen again.
“ It’s a constant battle being a twin mom. You want to be soft and strong all at the same time. And you want that to happen simultaneously for both kids.
“ I believe true love is forgiveness and compassion tempered carefully with discipline.